On Sunday, Beyonce marked a new history by becoming the Grammy’s most decorated female artist of all-time. During her acceptance speech, Beyonce momentarily acknowledged only one of her daughters, named Blue Ivy who also made history as the second youngest person to win a Grammy, ever!
But she quickly followed up mentioning all of her babies as she referred to her twins, son Sir, and daughter Rumi. This innocent gesture made the multi-talented icon very much relatable to all the mothers out there.
Leah Segedie, who is a mother of three boys based in Los Angeles and also the editor-in-chief of the mom blog titled Mamavation told Insider that the instance just made her lover the superstar more as a person because even she struggles with the same things that she struggles with.
41-year-old Segedie shares some similar forgettable moments, as she also recollected the times when she calls her sons the wrong names.
She said that if it’s James, she calls them Luke or Stephen, she added.
Genevieve Von Lob, who is a clinical psychologist and also the author of Happy Parent, Happy Child: 10 Steps to Stress-free Family Life stated that making Grammy history was overall an overwhelming and emotional moment for Beyonce, and it’s also tough to be on the point when someone is put up on the spot.
Von Lob also acknowledged that it’s quite natural for the mothers to prefer one child over the other, and it’s something that people don’t want to admit, she added.
She also mentioned that a parent favoring one child over another is something that even she sees in her practice.
Segedie’s favorite child is mostly based on the hour of the day. When it’s time to do the dishes, she prefers her middle child because he’s organized and gets the job done. But when it’s the time to snuggle, her youngest son is her favorite. The first thing that a parent should do is:
Acknowledge that you have a favorite:
Von Lob said that instead of denying, accept that you have a favorite, name it, and be conscious of the choice. This way a parent can readjust their behavior and treat their children equally. Mothers tend to favor a child who is more easygoing or shares similar interests. This is obvious because children who tend to be stubborn and strong-willed offer a harder time. But even these kids have their upsides as some of them can grow up to be thoughtful leaders and dynamic.
Validate all emotions:
Segedie said that it’s for sure that one child would shine over the other and when the other one isn’t necessarily the center of attention, it is equally important to validate their feelings. Von Lob said that if a parent has a favorite child, they must not pressurize up over it. It’s important to be kind to oneself rather than beating up oneself because mistakes are bound to happen.
A mother should always lessen the pressure to be a perfect mom because that’s just not realistic nor how it should be, even in the first place.
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